What Relatives Can Do

*	DO NOT ALLOW CPS SOCIAL WORKERS INTO YOUR HOME IF THEY DO NOT HAVE A "SEARCH WARRANT!" This is federal law according to case law, Calabretta vs. Sacramento Department of Social Services, (1995-96)
*	A relative is any person that is related to the family member by blood or marriage. California state law allows for grandparents as well as relatives to gain control and custody of the children. This is the only good news about these draconian child abuse laws. We all know that not all families get along with their in-laws and vice versa but, if you have a situation like this I suggest you prevail and be nice to each other because, "CPS" has the power over both of you at this point in time.
*	If you have a brother, sister, aunt, uncle, niece, nephew, or grandparent that has had their child, children, or grandchildren taken away by these draconian "CPS" laws then you should be a form of support for your family. If at ALL possible! After all this will help keep the child or children out of the foster care and or adoption system. You don't want them going into this system where they can be raped, lost, stolen, killed, molested, and plain forgotten about. Do you?
*	Relatives have a duty to help out their loved ones if they care enough about those relatives and their children. Some relatives can be very cold and stoic. We know this, just as long as you aren't this way, don't worry about those relatives that are cold and ignorant. The world is full of cold and ignorant people everywhere.
*	Every child needs to be loved and appreciated so show true concern for the child or children that might need your help. What if "you" were in their shoes? Think about that one. And, remember, some children that are placed in the "foster care system" are hurt by other children and, the very adults that are suppose to protect them!
*	Teach your relatives children that you are caring for, to love themselves, and give them plenty of positive attention because they are feeling lonely, sad, nervous, and withdrawn without their natural parent's or family and this is understandable. That's why it takes time for relatives and children to get to know one another as does a foster family and adoptive family. These inter-familial relationships all take time to get to know one another and each family member. Don't expect this to happen overnight! It can take up to six months or even years to trust someone.
*	Teach the children about love. Love is the only thing that conquers all evil. It really is. We live in a world of liars and thieves and we don't trust people like we used to. So, teach the children about love, first, and then all things will be possible with your relatives children whom you are caring for and helping to raise. Teach them love by showing love to them!
*	Teach the children how to read, write, sing, dance, whatever makes you all happy and have fun while you are helping to raise your relatives children. Try to see this as joy instead of a burden to them because children sense when they are a problem or when they are making someone happy. Laugh, love, and have fun together!
*	Don't scream or yell at the children. They are already feeling sad and lonely without their natural mother, father, brother, or sister, etc.
*	Don't hit or beat up these children. They can report that you are abusing them and "CPS" can and will take them away from your control and custody. Most of the time these children end up running away from the grandparent's home and the relatives home anyway.
*	Don't use any form of child abuse on your relatives children! They are innocent children and don't deserve that kind of treatment. There is mental abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, and financial abuse as well and you can have your relatives children taken away from your control and custody.
*	Do find and join a support group that is in your area and if there isn't one, then start a support group. You can start a support group within your own church! You will find other relatives and caretaker's in your position so, you don't have to feel alone!
*	Do keep up your daily exercise program even if the children don't want to exercise with you. When they see you exercising and moving then they might want to jump into your mix for a change and you can all have fun!
*	Do live, love, and laugh with the children! They won't forget your love and help.

I wanted to talk about the fact that my personal relatives made my personal case a real nightmare. My ex-mother-in-law aided and abetted the "CPS" social workers because she did not know the truth of what had transpired and happened to me and my children after this particular neighbor called the police and lied to them and told them that I was abusing my three beautiful children when in fact, I was playing with them in my front yard in East San Jose, on a beautiful sunny day the weekend of Memorial Day in 1987, and my ex landlord was drinking whiskey and, he was the one that was drunk and he was bothering me and my children. This female black neighbor of mine, (I still remember her name), lied to the police about me because she was jealous of me and my children (there are evil people out here in the real world that will and can do this to another person, so watch your neighbors!), and she told them something stupid like I was acting bazaar! What a bunch of crap and lies she told the police and of course they believed that cocaine freak instead of believing a mother that has three young children and that goes to church on a regular basis. You know what? The devil is a liar and he comes to kill, steal, and destroy God's people! That's all he is good for! That's what people that are ignorant and stupid can do to you and your children. So, today, no, I don't trust anyone. People lie all the time and they get away with it. I always tell people to get to know their neighbors real good and visit them and talk with them as much as possible to have a good working relationship with their neighbors. This is vital for a strong and healthy community anyway and you never know what's gonna happen in your neighborhood these days with all the killings and shootings and drug wars going on in our communities.

So, there I was caught in a situation where a neighbor lied about me and then the police officer that came out to my home about the call was gonna let me go back into my home to take care of my children but, he stopped to tell me that he had to run a warrant check on my name and on my landlord and that he would come back to talk to me. Well, he did just that. He came back after about 15 minutes and told me that my landlord's name was clear but, that I had had a warrant out of San Francisco! I looked at him in disbelief! I told him that I don't act that way or live like that and I take care of my business. I immediately asked him where the warrant was out of and he told me San Francisco! I replied, "What!? There must be some mistake!" You better check your records! He told me that it was my name after checking my drivers license. I started to get panicky and then he threatened me! Well, you don't do that to a mother and expect her to be tame when she has children with her! So, he called for a back up. I asked him if I could call my father or sister who lived around the corner from me to come over and pick up my three little children. He yelled at me, "NO!" I then asked him if I could call my Christian girlfriend and he yelled at me, "NO!" Now today, I have to admit he was a jerk! That's what he was because I asked him kindly, only to get a nasty response from him! So, that's what he was to me. I remember his face. He was a Spanish police officer and tall. I wonder what ever happened to him after he lied on his police report about me and that was the last time I was able to live with my children. I never saw them again til I ended up in Juvenile Dependency Court in San Jose, California in June 1987.

My three beautiful children were taken to the shelter on Roberts Avenue, in San Jose, CA., and I was never allowed to live with them since that day in May 87. The Spanish police officer told me that the warrant was out of the San Francisco Traffic Court and I couldn't believe that the S.F. traffic courts didn't even notify me that I had to make one last payment (I had been paying off PARKING METER tickets to the SF traffic court because my late husband left me with over $600.00 worth of parking meter tickets out of the SF Bay area when I lived in SF with him before he died and the SF traffic court judge made me pay back $300.00 at $25.00 per month while I was on AFDC), and instead of notifying me they just put out a warrant for my arrest! How disgusting! When I had three little children to take care of and that last $25.00 payment I used at Christmas time to buy my poor children a Christmas tree or some food! And, I got so busy with college and caring for my children that I inadvertently forgot to make that last $25.00 payment to the starving San Francisco traffic court! So, I take full responsibility for NOT making that payment but, that don't give NOBODY the right to LIE, STEAL, and CHEAT me out of being with my family and caring for my children for ALL these years! So, I still stand on God's Word that says, "Vengeance is mine, saith the Lord!" I do believe that He will take care of ALL those people (and ya all know who you are), that have lied about me and my children and my family, from the police, to the CPS social workers that have worked on my family case, to the juvenile dependency court judges, and all the way to the county counsel attorney's that did nothing but LIE about me and my character as a loving mother and wife! You will all have your days in hell. Period.

It took me from 1987 through 1995 to get custody of my eldest son and then from 1987-2001, to get my youngest son back and out of the foster care system! But, the longest fight was with my lovely daughter that "they" tried to turn against me! They didn't win! No! No! No! The CPS social worker that placed my daughter in a shelter and then with some strange foster family for a month in June 87, was tortured in their home and these CPS social workers had the NERVE to try and put the blame on my ex-fiancee whom I was gonna marry in 1987, we'll just call him F. Well, after things started to get heated up in the juvenile dependency court room he and I both wanted him to take a lie detector test and it came back borderline. What the hell is borderline? These people lie so much it ain't funny. The hellish thing about it is that "they" get away with their lies! It's a sick world we live in out here. Those people that did this to me and my children will burn in HELL one day when their time comes upon this earth to pay back the wrong that they did to me and my children! As it was the smart aleck juvenile dependency court judge that took and removed my three children from me because these "CPS" social workers LIED about me in their stupid social study report to the judge, well his youngest son DIED in a car crash accident and he don't have his son ANYMORE! Does he!? But, I do, even though my son's are a mess. At least I still have my son's! As for my ex-in-laws, well, one passed away in 2005 and my ex-mother-in-law passed away in 2007, two years after her sweet husband passed away. God takes care of our enemies! Don't think that He doesn't. He watches our every move even when we aren't looking. My natural mother Bertha, always told me to do right to other people and to never lie, steal, and cheat anyone. Those are the values that I grew up with, so, when someone lies about me and my character and reputation, no, I don't like it and I will fight to save face. However hard and long it takes me to save face for me and my family. I loved my late husband and I love all six of my children. I still love and cherish those old boyfriends of mine that I was gonna marry but because this child welfare system did what "they" did to me and my family, it made it harder for me to get married after "they" ruined my credit and tried to make me look like a bad mother and a bad parent! I still STAND on my word today that I have NEVER abused ANY of my six children! And, all those lies in all those reports, well, they are just that, LIES! They can take their reports and shove them up their colons. Discipline yes. But, never abusive! A mother's LOVE IS STRONG AND WILL NEVER DIE! I love my children.